Your second mom By-law is difficult to treat with indifference. We collected basic Valais and suggest ways to defuse it. Perfection itself CROWN PHRASE: "By the way, my son does not like women in trousers. WHAT DOES IT: The world is only one woman, knowing all the desires of men better than himself - his mother. And she is ready to just to have a precious little boy did not raise any difficulties. Her house is always full cup, she lives put at creating comfort for her husband and child, while not forgetting to always be cheerful, charming and full parade. At the first opportunity thrown naglazhivat his shirt "correctly" and pour into a thermos delicious soup that he dined at work. I do not mind to give you a couple of valuable advice: "His ex is also too fond of a career" or "He loves that meat was well-fried. WHAT DO YOU: The best strategy - friendliness. I stress once again how well she raised her son - a real man, to whom we can always rely on. If the mother in law somehow offended you for a living, should not be attributed to her, and with her husband. Together experienced difficulties reinforce the relationship. Of course, there is a chance that he considers it serious enough, out of solidarity with the mother or for other reasons. Statement: "You are imagining things" - a very common way to dismiss the problem. Do not be offended and try to bring to his mind, that perhaps you perceive the situation differently. Ask to stand on your side. For him enough time to show my mother that he was satisfied with his half, as she sincerely rejoice his happiness. 98% of women expect that in disputes with their in-law a man does not get up the side of my mother. Mummy CROWN PHRASE: "You're like my daughter." WHAT MAKES IT at every meeting throws you kiss and hug, asked even the most minor events in your life, and often gives nice nonsense. You're like a balm to her wounded heart. However, should for once did not return the feeling - to refuse, for example, the invitation to come to drink tea after work or stroll along the trendy shops, as the clouds are gathering. No, of course, it does not get angry, it simply was "extremely upset". WHAT DO YOU: Do not let a manipulation. Go get a borders of your relationship with it - if necessary, say, bluntly, that you are very pleased to be her daughter and even her friend, but my mother you already have. It is possible that it will fall into the other extreme - will turn into a helpless child, constantly in need of your care. However, it can survive - constructive assistance (especially if the mother in law - an elderly man) does not mean restriction of freedom. In the end, there are nurses, maids and other characters, will facilitate the everyday side of life, and her son will have whatever support. Therapist CROWN PHRASE: "You're really worried that Vasya so much work?" WHAT DOES SHE: Do your mother-in-a curious hobby - the relations of his son. She has no husband or he is over many years of marriage have long structured and classified, but the actions of the child, their motives and consequences - the field nepahanoe. At every family celebration, she literally prepares your life, then explains, "whatever that meant," and finally "writes out a prescription:" A man needs freedom of action "or" We need to argue - just so you keep the passion. " WHAT TO DO TO YOU: At heart, she wishes you well - this is worth remembering, especially in those moments when on its board of ethics and psychology of family life you want to bang your head against the wall. It is this idea will give you the strength not to kill her under the hot hand. In addition, useful support for your man - let her see that you do not just go its own way, but also step into the legs. Since neutralize it still does not quite succeed, go for a compromise. Promised that as soon as you have friction, you immediately turn to her for advice. If in-law will continue to "pester with questions, politely but sternly explain that personal touch so you're not going but serious questions about the talc is not the two of you, you (together) are ready to discuss in terms of" big happy family.